Life is not about finding love.

 

Not about getting love from the outside.

 

It is more about BEING love.

 

How can I become love itself?

 

If I AM love, I don’t need to search for it.

 

I already have it because I AM love.

 

How to get there?

 

It can begin with an understanding of…

 

The Four Dimensions of Love.

 

(Thanks to Tony Robbins for this.)

 

Baby Love: The first dimension isn’t about loving babies—it’s about expecting love to meet all our needs. While natural for infants, many adults get stuck here, wondering why relationships feel empty.

 

Horse Trading: Tony refers to this as the unconscious, “I’ll do this if you do that” exchange. “The minute you start measuring what you’re getting,” he notes, “it’s not love anymore.”

 

Unconditional Love: At this stage, relationships become extraordinary. “You love because it’s who you are,” Sage adds, reflecting on how this shift transformed their 24-year marriage.

 

Transcendent Love: This is the highest dimension. Tony’s partner Sage reflects, “Love can look so different and so much more beautiful than the narrative or expectation we might have.” Love isn’t about fitting into predetermined boxes—it’s about allowing it to expand beyond what we thought possible.

 

Which dimension do you typically operate from?

 

Sometimes just noticing creates an opportunity to shift to the next level.

 

It’s not about judging where you are—it’s about growing into what’s possible.

 

In Joy and Love

 

Matti Anttila PLD (Professional Laughter Dude)

Certified Laughter Yoga Teacher

Head Honcho at EasyStressRelease.com

Author of The Zen of Joy

 

“Joy and Love are key to overcoming our inner turmoil as well as the challenges and chaos present in the world.”

 

Free resource: “108 Tips for More Joy, Energy and Health.”   Click here:  https://joyenergyandhealth.com

Do your own research. Do not trust mine.

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