Independence is a Myth. Mastery Newsletter January 18, 2025
We are born dependent.
It is part of our nature to strive for independence. Part of our survival mechanism.
Eventually we must become independent of our parents or caretakers.
This is essential as they will not always be with us.
That said, we can never be truly independent.
The next stage is inter-dependence.
What would it take to be truly independent?
We would have to locate away from society.
Build our own house…with tools we made ourselves…yikes…
If you use a hammer and saw that some one else made, you would not be truly independent, would you?
Think about being out in the wild having built a home…
What would you do about a toothache, just for one example?
No, we are not built for true independence.
Instead, recognizing that we need others…
This is actually a great positive.
Very few are able to be hermits…
Instead, we need the company of others, need their energy, their caring and support…
This is a good thing…
Because we can be caring and support for others as well.
Taking this a little further…
Deepening our bonds with others…helping them and allowing them to help us…
This is true riches in our lives…
This bonding, this support…
This loving energy exchange is where the real substance of our existence lies…
Think about helping someone and how good it feels to be able to do so…
Think also about receiving caring, love and support from others…
This may be where some get tripped up a little.
We want to feel our independence somewhat and may not be open to love and support.
Could this feeling be a hold-over from that stage of our development when we needed to pull away from the full support of our parents or caretakers?
Are we stuck in that stage?
Should we not be moving on from that stage?
From the temporary stage of some independence from parents to a more fully realized stage of inter-dependence?
How much is our development being stunted by clinging on to the idea of independence?
An idea of a stage that is meant to be temporary?
Embracing instead our inter-dependence…
Loving and supporting others…
But just as important…accepting love and support from others and accepting it fully…
Embracing that love and support…knowing we deserve it…
Just some thoughts…
What are your thoughts on this?
In Joy and Love
Matti Anttila PLD (Professional Laughter Dude)
Certified Laughter Yoga Teacher
Head Honcho at EasyStressRelease.com
Author of The Zen of Joy
“Joy and Love are key to overcoming our inner turmoil as well as the challenges and chaos present in the world.”
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